The Prophet ’s Good Companionship
No woman know a good marital companionship – as that companionship means in the perfectness of a person- as she knew of the Prophet of Allah (pbuh), which is clear in the holy Quran in his attitude, sayings, and deeds.
The most things that specify the Prophet ’s morals with his wives were his good companionship, cheerfulness, joking with his family, laughing with his wives, mildness, and generosity.
Even when he was racing with ‘A’isha – mother of the believers, may Allah be pleased with her - in the desert in one of his trips, it was to show love to her by that. She said that the Prophet of Allah (pbuh) raced me and i won, that was before i gained some weight. Then I raced him after that and he won. He said:" we are equal."
Also, the Prophet used to gather his wives everyday in the house of the one he will spend the night with. He sometimes eats dinner with them then everyone leaves to her home. He used to sleep with his wife on the same sheets, take his rope off his shoulders and sleeps in his loincloth. And after praying al ‘Ishaa prayers (which is the last prayer of the day), he goes home and sits with his family a little before he goes to sleep.
Furthermore, the Prophet (pbuh) put the criterion of the best of men in the good treatment of men to their wives. He said: “the best one of you is the best to his family, and i am the best one of you to my family." Narrated By At-Tirmithi
That is because artificiality and pretension of high moral standards becomes weak when the person feels that he has authority and power, and becomes weaker when he stays a long time with whom he has authority upon. If the person keeps on his moral perfection in a society he has power upon and has continuous intimacy with, so this is the best person in morals.
If the Prophet (pbuh) is the best one for his family, so his companionship with them must be really perfect, in all what goodness means of moral perfection in behavior, love, justice, mercy, loyalty, and all what marital life demands in all conditions, situations and days as it was clarified in books of sunnah, merits, and the Prophet ’s (pbuh) biography (sirah books). And this was indicated in the honorable sunnah in many of the Prophet ’s sayings regarding his behavior with his family and his treatment to them.
A- about the Prophet ’s love to them (his wives) anas bin malek –may Allah be pleased with- says:
(1) The Prophet of Allah (pbuh) said:” the things that were rendered beloved to me in this life are; women, perfume, and my tranquility is in prayers.”
Narrated by Ahmed and others.
(2) Amr Bin Al Aas – may Allah be pleased with_ asked the Prophet :” o Prophet of Allah who is the person you love most?” The Prophet replied: “‘A’isha”. Amr said: “and from men,” he said: “her father,” I said “then who? He said “‘Umar”, and he named other men, so i kept silent fearing to be the last one.”
Narrated by at-Termithi
B- about the Prophet ’s playing with his family, ‘A’isha – may Allah be pleased with- says:
1) I used to play with dolls at the house of the Prophet (pbuh) and my friends used to come and play with me and when he (pbuh) arrives, they leave, so he let them come in to play with me again.”
Narrated by al-Bukhary.
2) ‘A’isha -may Allah be pleased with her- said:” the Prophet of Allah (pbuh) was standing at the door of my room covering me with his rope so i can watch the abyssinians playing in the mosque”.
He was very much concerned of ‘A’isha’s young age who keens on having amusement”.
3) We previously mentioned the hadith talking about the Prophet ’s race with ‘A’isha – may Allah be pleased with her- which shows the Prophet ’s kindness and mercy.
4) An example of his good companionship and the nobility of his morals: ‘A’isha- may Allah be pleased with her - said: “when I drink while being menstruating, and then give the cup to the Prophet (pbuh), he used to put his mouth where I put mine to drink.” Narrated by Muslim