He, ( PBUH )would honor and act hospitably towards his wives’ friends

Under category: How He treated them?

Aa’ishah narrated: ‘

‘Never did I feel jealous of the wives of the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, more than Khadeejah, although I did not (have the privilege to) see her.’ She added: “Whenever the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sal- lam, slaughtered a sheep, he would say: “Send it to the friends of Khadee- jah.” One day I said to him, ‘(It is) Khadeejah only who always prevails upon your mind.’ Thereupon the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Her love had been nurtured in my heart by Allah Himself, and she was the mother of my children.””1

 This means that she was the only wife from whom he had children who stayed alive. One of his wives, Maariyah, gave birth to another son whose name was Ibraaheem but he  died at the age of six months.

Aa’ishah narrated:

‘“An old lady came to the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, while he was in my house, so he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, asked her: “Who are you?” she replied: ‘I am Jaththaamah Al-Muzaniyyah.’ He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Rather, you are Hussaanah. How are you and your people? How are you doing? How has life been with you since I saw you last?”2 She said: ‘We are just fine, O Messenger of Allah, may my father and mother be sacrificed for you.’ After she left I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, why were you so friendly and kind with this old lady and gave her such a good reception?’ He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, replied: “O ‘Aa’ishah, she used to visit us during the life of Khadeejah and being kind to old friends is from faith.””3

He, ( PBUH ) was kind to the families of his Companions after their death:

Anas ibn Maalik narrated

that the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alay- hi wa sallam, did not enter the house of any woman except that of his wives and that of Umm Sulaym whom he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to visit. Once he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, was asked as to why this was the case, whereupon he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “I feel great pity for her. Her brother was killed while he was fighting with me.”4

Umm Sulaym was the mother of Anas ibn Maalik. Her name was Umm Sulaym bint Milhaan Al-Ansaariyyah. She was better known by
her nickname Ar-Rumaysaa’. 

Her brother was Haraam ibn Milhaan who was killed during the battle of Bi’r Ma’oonah.
It is recommended to be kind to and look after the affairs of the families of one’s brothers and old friends after their death.

 The Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, our leading exam- ple, was kind to Umm Sulaym and visited her because her brother was killed while he was with him, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. 

He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, considered kindness and compassion towards her as loyalty towards her brother and maintaining ties with him after his death.5


المراجع

  1. Reported by Al-Bukhaari and (3818) Muslim (2435).
  2.  Jaththaamah means a lazy person, while Hussaanah indicates goodness and beauty. It was the habit of the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, to change the names that had a negative meaning to ones with nice meanings. 
  3.  Reported by Al-Haakim Nasaa’i (17/1).
  4. Reported by Al-Bukhaari (2844) and Muslim (2455).
  5.  Fat-h Al-Baari (461/8).