The Prophet’s Guidance in Marriage and Marital Life
It was authentically narrated that the Prophet said:
“The most liked by me in your world are women and perfume, but the delight of my eye is the prayer.
He also said:
“O company of young men,whoever of you is able to marry should do so. And he said: “Marry the affectionate woman who is likely to bear children.”
His life with his wives was characterized by good treatment and good manners. He used to say:
“The best of you is the best to his family and l am the best of you to my family
If one of his wives showed interest in something permissible, he went along with her. He used to let the An saar girls play with Aisha When Aisha drank from a vessel, he would take it and drink from the same place her mouth had been. He used to rest in her room and recite the Qur'an with his head in her room, even when she had her menses.
After the `asr prayer he would visit all his wives, one after the other to inquire how they were, but at night he slept in the house of the one whose turn it was.
He used to treat his wives equally in spending the night and in providing living quarters and in their maintenance.
He would have intercourse with his wives in the early or latter part of the night. If he had intercourse in the early part of the night, he might have a bath or only do wudhu', and then sleep.
“Cursed is the one who has intercourse with his wife in her rear.”
He also said: “When anyone of you intends to have intercourse with his wife he should say:
"Allaahumma jannibna ash-shaytan wa jannibash-shaytan ma razaktana." (O Allah, keep us away from Satan and keep Satan away from what you provide us with.) Then, if a child is decreed for them Satan will never harm him.”
He also said:
“When one of you acquires a wife, a servant or an animal, he should grasp her forelock, supplicate Allah for blessing, pronounce the name of Allah and say:
"Allaahumma inni as'aluka khayraha wa khayrama jubilat `alayhi, wa a`udhu bika min sharraha wa sharra ma jubilat `alayh."
(O Allah, I ask You for the good in her and the good in her creation, and I seek refuge in You from her evil and the evil of her creation.)
He used to say to the newly married:
"Baarak Allaahu laka, wa baaraka `alayka wa jama`a bay nakuma fee khayr." (May Allah bless you, send His blessing upon you and bring you together in goodness.)
If he wanted to travel, he drew lots among his wives. The one whose lot came out would accompany him without making up the time
to the others.
It was not of his guidance to give much attention to homes, constructing, decorating or enlarging them.
He divorced a wife and took back his wives after separating from them for a month; and he never pronounced thihaar.