He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, listened to the humor of his wives:
‘ “I said to the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, O Messenger of Allah! Suppose you landed in a valley where there is a tree of which something has been eaten and then you found trees of which nothing has been eaten, of which tree would you let your camel graze?” He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “[I will let my camel graze] of the one of which nothing has been eaten before.” (The sub-narrator added: ‘Aa’ishah meant that the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, had not married a virgin besides herself).”
The family life of Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, was shaped around Islamic principles and he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, implemented in his own life the principles he preached to his nation. His marriages, which involved a multitude of situations and aspects, were models for Muslims in all respects. While his marriage to Khadeejah introduces to us an example of monogamous life, his other marriages bring up a rich variety of his attitudes towards his different wives, each with a different personality.
In return for his wives’ loyalty and commitment to him, the Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, always observed their rights.
Observing the rights of one’s spouse is a principle set by the Quran itself, which can be seen in the following verse (which means):
«...And they [women] have rights similar to those [of men] in kindness...»
[Quran, 2: 28]
Likewise, all the wives of Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, observed his rights over them both as a husband and a Prophet. Love and respect between spouses is integral to happiness and peace in family life, which finds expression in many Prophetic narrations and in actual examples from his life. In a narration, he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
“The best among you are those who behave best toward their wives.”
In other narrations he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
“A believing man should not hate a believing woman [his wife]; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.”
and he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also said:
“Take my advice with regard to women: Act kindly towards women.”
These, and many other narrations, are all commands to foster love and respect between spouses, which leads to a stable family and community.