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The Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, ordered them to be just in giving gifts and allowances to their children
Unfortunately, some parents incline towards or love some of their children more than the others, which causes them to give precedence to some of them over others when giving gifts and allowances. This is injustice and oppression and the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, warned against it.
An-Nu`maan ibn Basheer (a Companion) narrated that his mother,`Amrah bint Rawaahah (a woman Companion) asked his father for some money to give her son, but he procrastinated for a year, then gave it to her. She said: “I am not pleased until you take the Messenger of Allah as a witness to what you have given my son.” An-Nu`maan said: “So he took my hand to the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and I was a boy at the time, and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, the mother of this boy, the daughter of Rawaahah, would be pleased if you were to witness and testify to what I have given her son.’” The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “O Basheer, do you have any other children besides this child?” He said: “Yes.” The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, then asked: “Have you given all of them the same as you have given this son of yours?” He said: “No.” Thereupon, the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Then do not ask me to testify, as I will not witness to oppression.”
Another narration added that the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said
“Fear Allah, and be just between all of your children.” An-Nu`maan said: “So my father went back and took the money back.”
In another narration, the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said
“They have a right on you, and that is that you are just between them, just as you have a right on them, and that is that they treat you well.”
Therefore, there is no doubt an individual should be just when giving gifts and allowances to their children.
