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He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, did not mind his wives listening to permissible rhymes:
Aa’ishah narrated:
‘“ The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, came (to my room) while there were two girls with me singing what the two tribe of the Ansaar (Al-Aws and Al-Khazraj) recited to one another at the Battle of Bu’aath. He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, lay down on the bed and turned his face away. Then Abu Bakr came and he scolded me and said: ‘The wind instruments of Satan in the house of the Messenger of Allah (referring to their singing)!’ The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, turned towards him and said: “Leave them alone.” And when he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, became inattentive, I gestured to them and they went out, and it was the day of ‘Eed.”
Ibn Hajar said: “This narration proves that it is recommended for one to make his family enjoy ‘Eed days by doing different things that would cause them to rejoice and relax after having performed an act of worship (fasting and praying long hours at night during Ramadhaan). It also proves that one should be lenient and soft with women and foster her love.
Ibn Rajab (a scholar) also said: The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, allowed his wives to enjoy themselves during ‘Eed and wedding events by reciting poems without musical instruments except that he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, allowed them to play the tambour.
He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, allowed young girls to come and play with ‘Aa’ishah:
Aa’ishah narrated:
‘“I used to play with dolls in the presence of the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and my girlfriends also used to play with me. When the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, entered (my room) they would hide themselves, but the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would call them to join and play with me"
An-Nawawi said: “This is a sign of his kindness and good treatment to his wife.”
‘Aa’ishah narrated: “When the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, arrived after the expedition to Tabook or Khaybar (the narrator is doubtful), the wind raised an end of a curtain which was hung in front of her storeroom, revealing some dolls which belonged to her.
He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, asked: “What is this?” She replied: ‘My dolls.’ Among them he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, saw a horse with wings made of rags, and asked: “What is this I see among them?” She replied: ‘Ahorse.’ He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, asked: “What is this that it has on it?” She replied: ‘Two wings.’ He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, asked: “A horse with two wings?” She replied: ‘Have you not heard that Solomon had horses with wings?’ Thereupon the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, laughed so heartily that I could see his molar teeth.”
Playing and joking between the spouses fills their hearts with joy, harmony and love. This strengthens the marital bond, and deepens compassion and love between them.
Al-Qaasimi (a scholar) said: “Joking and being playful is something which delights women’s hearts.”
Ad-Daynoori (a scholar) said: “Despite how firm he was, ‘Umar used to say, “A man should act (as playful) as a child with his wife, but acts like a real man when the need arises (outside his house).”
Many men smile and laugh with their friends and colleagues but once they enter their house, the smile disappears and they put on a frown.
