The Prophet's Emotions Towards his Wives

The Prophet's Emotions Towards his Wives 

 Looking attentively to the biography of the Prophet – peace be upon him – you will find that he was extending a great deal respect to his wives and was paying high attention, care and love towards them.

He was the best example for the ideal manners toward the wife. He was comforting his wives, wiping their tears, respecting their emotions, hearing their words, caring for their complaints, alleviating their sadness, going in picnics with them, racing with them, bearing their abandonment, discussing matters with them, keeping their dignity, supporting them in emergencies, declaring his love to them and was very happy with such love. Here are some attractive examples and shining moments in his life:

Knowing Their Feelings 

The Prophet – peace be upon him – was telling Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her: "I know well when you are pleased or angry from me. Aisha replied: how you know that? He said: when you are pleased with me you swear by saying "by the God of Mohammad" but when you are angry you swear by saying "by the God of Ibrahim". She said: you are right, I just desert you name. In another narration the same tradition ended by saying: "no, by the God of Ibrahim".

Narrated by: Aisha – Degree: right – Reported by: Muslim –Source: al-Musnad al-Sahih – page or number: 2439

Understanding their Jealousy & Love 

Umm Salama – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated: she brought food in a dish of her own to the Prophet – peace be upon him – and his companions. Seeing that, Aisha came holding a tool and broke the dish out of jealousy. Understanding the situation, the Prophet took the two halves of the dish and said to his companions: eat your food, it is just the jealousy of your mother, then the Prophet took the dish of Aisha and gave it to Um Salama and gave the dish of Um Salama to Aisha. 

Narrated by: Um Salama – degree: right – Reported by: al-Albani –Source: Sahih al-Nasa'i  – page or number: 3966

Understanding their Psychology & Nature

The Prophet – peace be upon him – said: "treat women kindly, they were created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is the highest part thereof; so, if you tried to rectify the rib it will be broken and if you left the rib as it is, it will remain crooked, and women are just like this; therefore treat them kindly".

Narrated by: Abu Huraira – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari –source: al-Jame' Al-Sahih  – page or number: 3331

This tradition is not for dispraising women as understood by the public, contrary, it is for teaching and educating men. Moreover, this tradition expressed the accurate understanding of the nature of the women and indicated the possibility of leaving the woman as it is in the permissible things but to guide her if she exceeded the permissible limits such as doing the sins and neglecting the duties.

Complaining to & Consulting Them

 
The Prophet – peace be upon him – has consulted his wives in the most delicate and important matters such as consulting his wife Um Salama – may Allah be pleased with her – regarding Al-Hudaibia treaty. The Prophet – peace be upon him – had written the treaty between him and the polytheists of Quraish in Al-Hudaibia region, in the hudaibia year and told his companions: go to make sacrifice and shave, but no one responded. The Prophet– peace be upon him – repeated that three times but still no one responded to him. Then the Prophet – peace be upon him – went to Um Salama and told her about the matter. Hearing that, Um Salam said: o Prophet of Allah, just go and don't speak to any one until you make your sacrifice and shave. The Prophet– peace be upon him – went out and did not speak to anyone until he did the same. Seeing that, the companions stood and make their immolation and began shaving for each other. 

Narrated by: Um Salama hind bint abi umayiah – degree: successive – Reported by: Ibn Jarir Al-Tabari – Source: Tafsir Al-Tabari – page or number: 2/293

Demonstrating his love & loyalty to them

The Prophet – peace be upon him – told Aisha in the long hadith of Um Zara' narrated by Al-Bukhari: I am in my love and loyalty to you just like Abi Zara' and Um Zara" Aisha replied: you are dearer to me more than my father and mother, you are even more loyal and loving than Abi Zara' to Um Zara". 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reportado por: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih  – page or number: 5189

Choosing the Best Nicknames to them

 
The Prophet – peace be upon him – was calling Aisha o Aish (nickname of Aisha), this is Jibreel (the angel of revelation) telling you the greetings. Aisha said: may peace and blessings be upon him, you (the Prophet) see what I can't see. The Prophet – peace be upon him – was calling Aisha "al-humairaa" (i.e. White-skinned woman with blushed cheeks). 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right attribution – Reported by: Ibn Hijer Al-Asqalani – Source: Fateh Al-Bari Of Ibn Hijer  – page or number: 2/515

Eating & drinking with them

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said: when I drink water from the pot while in menstruation period and give the pot to the Prophet – peace be upon him – he drinks from the same place which touched my mouth, moreover, during menstruation, I was eating from the piece of meat and giving the same to the Prophet – peace be upon him – and the Prophet puts his mouth in the same place of mine (in the same spot I was eating from).

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 300

Not Complaining of their Circumstances

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said: i was combing the hair of the Prophet – peace be upon him – while in menstruation.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 295

Resting & Sleeping in their Laps

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said: the Prophet – peace be upon him – was resting on my lap while I was in menstruation and he was reading Quran.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 297

Going on picnics & accompanying them

The Prophet – peace be upon him – was casting lots between his wives when he wanted to go out. Once, the Prophet cast a lot between his wives and the lot was the share of Aisha and Hafsa together. At night, the Prophet walks with Aisha and speaks to her. Knowing that, Hafsa told Aisha: why don't you ride on my camel and I ride yours and see what happens? Aisha replied: okay. Then Aisha rode the camel of Hafsa while Hafsa rode the camel of Aisha. The Prophet – peace be upon him – then went to the camel of Aisha while Hafsa was riding it, greeted her and walked together until she got down. Seeing that, Aisha felt jealousy and tried to put her leg between the lemon grass and say: Oh my Lord, send a scorpion or a snake to sting me, this is your Prophet and I can't say anything to him.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: al-musnad al-sahih  – page or number: 2445

Helping them in the Household Duties 

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – was asked about the manners of the Prophet in his home? She replied: he was helping in doing the family duties and when he hears the call of prayer he goes out.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih  – page or number: 5363

Depending on Himself to Relieve them

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – was asked about the manners of the Prophet – peace be upon him – in his home. She replied: he washes his clothes, milks his ewe, and serves himself.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Albani– Source: Sahih Al-Jame' – page or number: 4996

She said also: he sews his clothes, cleans his shoes and does what men generally do in their homes.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Albani – Source: Sahih Al-Jame' – page or number: 4937

Tolerating for their happiness

Aisha narrated that Abu Baker – may Allah be pleased with them – entered the home of the Prophet – peace be upon him – while two young girls were striking on the tambourine and singing and while the Prophet – peace be upon him – was laying down and covering himself with his clothes. Seeing him, the Prophet uncovered his face and told him: O Aba Baker, let them continue, these are the days of Eid (festival). The days were mina days and the Prophet – peace be upon him – was in Medina.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: al-albani – Source: al-sahih an-nasai  – page or number: 1596 

Treat them fairly while angry

Once, Aisha was angry at the Prophet – peace be upon him – so, he told her: do you accept Abu Obaida Bin Al-Jarrah as a judge between us? She replied: no, this man will not issue a judgment against you in my favor. He said: do you accept Omar as a judge? She replied: I fear Omar. He said: do you accept Abu Baker (her father)? She replied: yes I accept him.

Calm them down in panic

The Prophet – peace be upon him – was putting his hand on the shoulder of his wife when she is angry and saying: "o Allah, forgive her sins, relieve her heart from rage and protect her from distress".

Giving presents and showing affection to their friends

 
Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said: I have not ever been jealous of any woman more than Khadijah in spite of not seeing her. The Prophet – peace be upon him – was slaughtering the sheep and said: send it to the friends of Khadijah". One day I made him angry; I told him: why Khadijah! The Prophet – peace be upon him – said: "I was endowed with her love". Another narration for this hadith ended in the story of the sheep without the remainder.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 2435

74712- when he slaughtered the sheep said: send it to the friends of khadijah.
Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Albani – Source: Sahih Al-Jame' – page or number: 4722 

 
Praising & thanking them

 
The Prophet – peace be upon him – said: the rank of Aisha to the other women is like the rank of the porridge to the other foods. 
Narrated by: Anas Bin Malek – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih  – page or number: 2446

Feeling happy when they were happy 

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated that she was playing with dolls when she was with the Prophet – peace be upon him. She added: my friends were coming to visit me and they were feeling shy of the Prophet – peace be upon him – but he was letting them to be with me; in another narration, in the hadith narrated by Jarir: I was playing with dolls while I was in his home. 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih  – page or number: 2440. 

Feeling pleased when they were glad

 
Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said: once, the Prophet – peace be upon him – came from a battle and there was a cover for my dolls in my room. The wind uncovered the dolls. Seeing that, the Prophet said: what is this? She replied: my daughters. He said: what is the thing between them? She replied: it is a horse. He said: what is this thing on the horse? She replied: they are two wings. He said: a horse with two wings!! She replied: ¿didn't you hear that Sulaiman Bin Dawood – peace be upon them – was having horses with wings? The Prophet then laughed until his molars could be seen.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Albani – Source: Ghayat Al-Maram – page or number: 129

Expressing his love to them

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said: I have not ever been jealous of any woman more than Khadijah in spite of not seeing her. The Prophet – peace be upon him – was slaughtering the sheep and said: send it to the friends of Khadijah". One day I made him angry; I told him: why Khadijah! The Prophet – peace be upon him – said: "I was endowed with her love". Another narration for this hadith ended in the story of the sheep without the remainder.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 2435

Considering their best manners

"…the faithful husband should not hate his faithful wife, because if he hates certain manner in her character, then he should not forget the other good manners in her character". 

Narrated by: Abu Huraira – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: al-Musnad Al-Sahih  – page or number: 1469

Keeping their privacy

 
"…the worst rank for a man at the day of judgment is the rank of the man who sleeps with his wife and then discloses her privacy". 

Narrated by: Abu Saeed Al-Khudri – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih  – page or number: 1437

Refraining from beating or abusing them

 
"The Prophet – peace be upon him – has not ever beaten any woman, any servant or anything in his hand other than fighting in the way of Allah the almighty. He does not take revenge from anyone harmed him except when breaching the orders of Allah the almighty, at which case, he takes revenge". 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 2328

Consoling & wiping their tears

 
Safiyah – may Allah be pleased with her – was traveling with the Prophet – peace be upon him – and it was her day. She was slow in walking. The Prophet – peace be upon him – received her while crying and saying: you gave me a slow camel. Seeing that, the Prophet – peace be upon him – wiped her eyes with his hands and consoled her. Reported by An-Nasai.

Putting the bite in her mouth

The Prophet – peace be upon him said: "if you expend anything seeking the pleasure of Allah Almighty, even if you put a bite in the mouth of your wife, he will promote you to a higher degree in Paradise". 

Narrated by: ----- degree: right – Reported by: Ibn Taymiyyah – Source: Majmou' Al-Fatawa – page or number: 10/31
 

Fulfilling their needs 

"O Prophet of Allah ¿what are the rights of my wife? He said: to feed her when you eat, clothe her when you clothe, don't beat her face, don't abuse her and don't abandon her except at home". 

Narrated by: Mu'awiah Bin Haida Al-Qushairi – degree: stated in the introduction that it is "right" pursuant to the standards of some narrators – Reported by: Ibn Daqiq Al-Eid – Source: Al-Elmam – page or number: 2/655

Trusting them

The Prophet – peace be upon him – prohibited men from knocking the door of their families at night trying to charge them with treason or follow their mistakes. In another narration, he did not mention "trying to charge them with treason or follow their mistakes".
Narrated by: Jaber Bin Abdullah – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 715

Remembering & caring about them

The Prophet – peace be upon him – was visiting his eleven wives within a short period of time, at night or in the day. I said to Anas: ¿was he bearing that? Anas said: he had the power of thirty men.

Narrated by: Anas Bin Malek – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 268

Respecting them during menstruation

The Prophet – peace be upon him – was making love with his wives above the loincloth while in menstruation.

Narrated by: Maimona Bint Al-Hareth – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: Al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 294

Accompanying them in travel

The Prophet – peace be upon him – used to cast lots between him wives when he wanted to travel then he takes the one who wins the lot. He cast a lot between us in one of his battles and it was me who won it; therefore, I went with the Prophet – peace be upon him – after the revelation of al-Hijab (veil) verse. 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 2879

Racing & playing with them

 
Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated that she was accompanying the Prophet – peace be upon him – in travel while she was a young girl. She said I was still slim. The Prophet – peace be upon him – told his companions to go forward. They went forward. Then he told me: come, I want to have race with you. We started the race and I won. After a period of time, I went in travel with him and he said to his companions go forward. The companions went forward and then he told me: come to have a race with you. At that time, I forgot the former race and I was fat. I told him: how can we race while I am in this situation (fat)? He replied: you will do it. Then we started the race and he won. He laughed then and said: this is for the previous (race) one. 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: his attribution is right – Reported by: al-Albani – Source: Adab Al-Zafaf – page or number: 204

Choosing the best nicknames for them

 
Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – said to the Prophet – peace be upon him: O Prophet of Allah, all of your wives have nicknames except me. The Prophet – peace be upon him – replied: take the name of your son abdullah (i.e. Abdullah Bin Al Zubair), your nickname now is Um Abdullah. It’s said that: she was called um abdullah until she died though she has not ever given birth. 

Narrated by: Orwa Bin Al-Zubair – degree: right attribution – Reported by: Al-Albani – Source: Al-Silsila Al-Sahiha – page or number: 1/255

Sharing happiness and joy with them

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated: by Allah the Almighty, I saw the Prophet – peace be upon him – standing at the door of my room and the Habashi people were playing with their bayonets in the mosque of the Prophet – peace be upon him – while he was covering me with his gown so that I can see them playing and was waiting for me until I finish by my own will. So, try to consider the desires of the young girls, they like playing. 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: al-Musnad Al-Sahih  – page or number: 892

116691- Aisha narrated: i saw the Prophet– peace be upon him – at the door of my room and the Habashi people were playing in the mosque and the Prophet – peace be upon him – was covering me with his gown so that I can see them playing. 
Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 454

Spreading happiness in his house

 
Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated: once, Sawda visited us and the Prophet – peace be upon him – sat down between me and her, one leg in her lap and the other in mine. I made then khazira (food) and told her: eat! She refused. I said: if you don't eat i will stain your face with khazira but she insisted not to eat; therefore, i put my hand in khazira and painted her face. Seeing that, the Prophet – peace be upon him – laughed and gave his share in khzaira to Sawda and told her stain her face; so, Swada stained my face and the Prophet – peace be upon him – laughed. Then omar – may Allah be pleased with him – passed by and called for Abdullah. The Prophet – peace be upon him – thought that he will enter but Omar said to us: go wash your faces. Aisha said: since then, I still fear Omar due to the Prophet’s respect to him. 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: good – Reported by: Al-Albani – Source: Al-Al-Silsila Al-Sahiha – page or number: 7/363

Loving & respecting their families 

The Prophet – peace be upon him – appointed Amer Bin Al-Aas as a leader to Zat Al-Salasil battle. Feeling the love of the Prophet, amer asked the Prophet: whose is the dearest to you? He answered: (Aisha), Amer said: I mean, from men: he replied: (her father), Amer said: who then? The Prophet replied: (Omar), then the Prophet mentioned several men; so, Amer kept silence in order not to be the last of them. 

Narrated by: Abu Othman Al-Nahdi – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 4358

Keeping their dignity in ordeals

 
Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated: when the Prophet – peace be upon him – wanted to travel, he used to cast lots between his wives and the one who wins the lot will accompany him. At Bani Al-Mustaleq battle, I won the lot and traveled with him. Women were eating light food and avoid meat in order to move easily. I was sitting in my howdah when we get down for a rest, and when we want to go they carry me while in the howdah and put it on the back of the camel and then tight it with ropes to go forward again.

 When the Prophet – peace be upon him – finished the travel, he went back to the Medina. By approaching the Medina, he got down and took rest for a short period at night. Thereafter, the people were told to resume walking and they got ready to continue while I was out to relieve nature and I was having a necklace in my neck. When I finished, the necklace fell down from my neck and I did not remember it until I reached to the place of my baggage. At that time, people began leaving while I returned back again to my place looking for the necklace until I found it. Then, the people who took my camel for rest returned back and put the howdah on the camel thinking that I was there as usual and continue walking. I returned back to the camp and no people were there. All of them went forward. Seeing that, I covered myself with my gown and lay down in my place so that when they miss me they can return and find me there. While in that situation (laying down), Safwan Bin Al-Mu'atel Al-Salami passed by me as he was late for relieving nature. He saw my black clothes and approached me – he knew me before the revelation of the hijab (veil) verse – and said: "to Allah we belong, and to him is our return. The wife of the Prophet is here? I was then covering myself with my gown. He said: why are you late? I said nothing. Then he got the camel close to me and said: ride. He went back a little. Then I rode the camel and he guided the camel towards the caravan but we did not reach them and they did not miss us until the morning when they got down for rest. Then, they saw the man guiding the camel I rode. At that moment, a group of people fabricated a story and began spreading rumors that we committed adultery and the whole camp became confused while I knew nothing about the whole matter.

Then we reached medina and I was very sick and no one was telling me what was going on. Then the matter reached my father and Prophet – peace be upon him – and no one mentioned anything to me. I was then not pleased with the treatment of the Prophet towards me while I was sick because when he enters my room while my mother was nursing me he just says: how are you? He did not say anything else. Seeing that, I felt angry of his coolness and told him: may I go to my mother? He replied: no problem. Then I went to my mother and knew nothing about the whole matter. About twenty days later I recovered. At our era, we were not having toilets like the non-arabs. We hate it. We were just going to the free spaces in Medina and the women were going out every night to relieve nature. At certain night, I went out with Um Mustah to relieve nature.

At the way, she stumbled with her clothes and said: woe to my son Mustah!. I said to her: it is not good to speak like this about a man like your son, he is one of the immigrants and he has witnessed Bader battle! Um mustah said: don't you know the recent news? I said: what happened? She told me about the rumors made by the people that I committed adultery. I asked her: is that what happened? She said: yes. Hearing that, I was not able even to relieve nature and went back to home. I continued crying till I felt my liver will be broken out. I told my mother: all people speaking ill about me, why you did not mention this to me? My mother said: my dear daughter, don't worry; this usually happens to any beautiful woman loved by her husband who has other wives because the other wives and people will speak a lot about her out of their jealousy. The Prophet – peace be upon him – then delivered a sermon to the people – I did not know.

He said: "O people, why some group of you are speaking ill about my family and telling lies about them? I swear by Allah the almighty that my wife is good and chaste. Moreover, they also spoke ill about a man who is straightforward. That man did not enter my house except in my company". Hearing that, Abdullah Bin Ubai and some men of Al-Khazraj tribe got angry and the matter became complicated after what was told by Mustah and Hamna Bint Jahsh, the sister of Zainab Bint Jahsh, the wife of the Prophet – peace be upon him – because she was the only wife who compete with my rank for the Prophet. Zainab spoke only good about me but her sister Hamna spread ill rumors about me.

When the Prophet – peace be upon him – delivered the above mentioned sermon, Usaid Bin Khudair said: O Prophet of Allah, if they (the people who spoke ill about your family) are from Al-Aws tribe we will kill them and if they are from our brothers in Al-Khazraj tribe, just order us and we will cut their necks. Hearing that, Saad Bin Obada (head in Al-Khazraj tribe and was considered of the righteous men) said out of ardor: I swear by Allah that you are lying, we will not allow you to cut their necks, you just said like that because you know well that they (who spoke ill about the Prophet’s family) are from Al-Khazraj tribe, and if they were from your tribe you will not speak like this about them. Usaid replied: I swear by Allah that you are the liar; you are just a hypocrite man defending the hypocrite people. The Prophet – peace be upon him – got down from his stand and called Ali Bin Abi Taleb and Osama Bin Zaid – may Allah be pleased with them – in order to consult them.

Osma spoke good and said: O Prophet of Allah, it is your family and we know nothing but good about them and these rumors are lies and falsehood. Ali said: Oh Prophet of Allah, women are many, you can marry again, and you can ask her maid, she will not lie. The Prophet – peace be upon him – called Barira (the maid) and asked her about the matter. Ali has beaten her severely while saying: speak the truth to the Prophet! The maid was saying: I swear by Allah that I know nothing but good about Aisha except that when I knead the dough I tell her to keep it but she sleeps and forgets it, so the sheep comes and eat it!

Then Aisha said: the Prophet – peace be upon him – entered to my room while my parents were with me. There was also a woman from al-Ansar (people who supported the Prophet) crying with me. The Prophet – peace be upon him – sat down, praised Allah then said: O Aisha, you knew what the people are saying, be pious, and if you committed any thing of what is said by the people just repent to Allah. Allah will accept the repentance. Hearing that, I did not find any tears in my eyes (out of my astonishment of the speech of the Prophet) and expected that my parents will answer on my behalf but they did not do so. I was thinking that the Prophet – peace be upon him – will see a dream proving my innocence but did not expect that my rank is high to the degree that Allah the almighty will reveal a verse proving my innocence. I told my parents: can't you answer the Prophet of Allah? They replied: we do not know what to say. The matter was very difficult for Abu Baker family. 

 Aisha said: at that ordeal, the family of my father Abu Baker suffered more than anyone can bear. Then Aisha said: when my parents did not reply, I started crying and said: I swear by Allah I will not repent from what you say at all because if I admit what the people is saying – though I am innocent – I will be saying what is not happened actually and if I denied, you will not believe. Then I tried to remember the name of the Prophet Yaqoub (Jacob) but in vain, then I said: I will say just like the father of Yusuf: {for me patience is most fitting: against that which ye assert, it is Allah (alone) whose help can be sought}. Then the revelation came to the Prophet – peace be upon him - and I put a pillow under his head. I did not fear anything because I was sure that I was innocent but my parents feared that Allah will reveal something proving the sayings of people.

Then the Prophet – peace be upon him – sat down sweating heavily. He started wiping his sweat and said: be happy Aisha, Allah the almighty has revealed your innocence. I said: all praise be to Allah the almighty. Then the Prophet – peace be upon him – went out and recited the following verses: {those who brought forward the lie are a body among yourselves: think it not to be an evil to you; on the contrary it is good for you: to every man among them (will come the punishment) of the sin that he earned, and to him who took on himself the lead among them, will be a penalty grievous}.

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: the story is right and it is mentioned in Al-Bukhari & Muslim – Reported by: Al-Albani – Source: Fiqh Al-Sira – page or number: 288

Giving time to adorn themselves

We went for a battle with the Prophet – peace be upon him – and I was riding on my camel but someone followed me from behind and began urging my camel with a stick; so, my camel went forward quickly more than the best camels. The Prophet – peace be upon him – said: (why you are in a hurry?). I said: I got married recently. He said: (you married a virgin or not?). I replied: a not virgin. He said: (isn't it better to marry a young girl so that you can have fun with each other?). Then, when I went to consummate the marriage, the Prophet– peace be upon him – said: (wait until night – i.e. After Al-Isha (evening Prayer) – so that the bride can comb her hair and get ready). 

Narrated by: Jaber Bin Abdullah – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: Al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 5079

Considering their psychology while they were ill

The Prophet – peace be upon him – was, if one of his family members sick, reading surah Al-Falq verse and An-Nas verses on the sick member of his family and wiping him with his hands. When he got sick, which caused his death, I started reading the two verses and wiped him with his own hands because they are more blessed than mine. 

Narrated by: Aisha – degree: right – Reported by: Muslim – Source: al-Musnad Al-Sahih – page or number: 2192

Bringing good news and joy to them

Jibreel (the angel of revelation) – peace be upon him – came to the Prophet – peace be upon him – and said: o Prophet of Allah, this is Khadija coming holding a pot of food or drink, when she reaches you, tell her the greetings of Allah Almighty and me and tell her that Allah has prepared for her a house in Paradise made out of pearls wherein she will enjoy calmness and comfort.

Narrated by: Abu Huraira – degree: right – Reported by: Al-Bukhari – Source: al-Jame' Al-Sahih – page or number: 3820

Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated that the Prophet – peace be upon him – told her: "Jibreel is telling you his greetings" Aisha replied: tell him my greetings. 
Jibreel – peace be upon him – came to the Prophet – peace be upon him – and said: O Prophet of Allah, this is Khadija coming holding a pot of food or drink, when she reaches you, tell her the greetings of Allah the almighty and me and tell her that Allah has prepared for her a house in paradise made out of pearls wherein she will enjoy calmness and comfort. The Prophet – peace be upon him – told these good news to Khadija and was very happy for her.