The Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, prohibited becoming angry and hateful and wailin

that the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, went to visit `Abdullaah ibn Thaabit (another Companion) and found him in so much pain, to the point that the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, called him, but he did not answer. The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said “To Allah we belong, and unto Him we shall return”, then said: “We are helpless in your situation, O Abu Ar-Rabee`.” Then, the women cried out loud and wept, and Jaabir began to quieten them, so the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Leave them be; if he dies, however, then let no woman weep.” His daughter then said: “By Allah, I hoped that you would die as a martyr, for you have prepared yourself to travel and go out to fight in Allah’s Cause.” The Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Allah has written his reward in accordance with his intention; however, what do you reckon is martyrdom?” They said: “Dying (while fighting) in Allah’s path.” So the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “There are seven types of people that are counted as martyrs besides the one who is killed in the battle: the one who dies from the plague is a martyr; the one who dies from drowning is a martyr; the one who dies from a stomach disease is a martyr; the one who dies from intestinal pain dies a martyr; whoever dies in a fire dies a martyr; whoever dies under a collapsed building [or wall] dies a martyr; and a woman who dies while she is pregnant [or while giving birth] dies a martyr.” The Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also said: “Those who hit their own cheeks, tear their clothes, and call with slogans of the pre-Islamic days of ignorance are not among us

“Four things in my Nation are from the pre-Islamic times of ignorance, and they will [mostly] not abandon these four things: boasting about one’s ancestry, disparaging other people’s [or your own] lineage, seeking rain through the stars, and wailing.” The Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also said: “If the wailing woman does not repent before she dies, she is resurrected on the Day of Resurrection wearing garments made of pitch and a coat of scabies.”