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He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would spend time with his wives and socialize with them daily:

Auther : Muhammad Saalih Al-Munajjid
Under category : How He treated them?
408 2022/07/20 2024/06/20
Article translated to : العربية

Ibn ‘Abbaas (a Companion) narrated: “Whenever the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, prayed the dawn (Fajr) prayer he would sit in the place he prayed, and people would sit around him until the sun had risen, then he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would go to his wives, one by one, greet them and supplicate for them. He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would then stay in the house of the wife whose turn was on that day.

Notice that the narration says that he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, did this daily, and the first thing in the morning. His wives never felt that he, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, was not around, because they saw him daily; compare this with those who desert their wives for days and nights, rather for months on end! Some people spend hours with their friends daily and stay with them until late at night so that by the time a man returns home, he would be completed exhausted; his family will have gone to sleep and he would simply throw himself on bed and fall into a deep sleep.

He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would visit them and listen to what they had to say despite his responsibilities:

One night ‘Aa’ishah told him the long story of Umm Zar’, in which she said that eleven women gathered and pledged to reveal all their marital secrets to each other, and not to hold anything back. Each of them described her husband, and the best husband was that of Umm Zar’ who described her husband’s bounties and favors upon her. ‘Aa’ishah said: “The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said to me: “I am to you like Abu Zar’ is to Umm Zar’

A husband must allocate time to sit with his wife and hear what she has to say and socialize with her. Many wives complain that their husbands stay at work all day and when they come back home, many of them sit and watch TV or remain busy with the internet for hours, while the wife simply sits there waiting for him to pay her some attention. After he is finished, he goes to bed tired, unwilling and unable to talk, and sleeps like a dead man. Some of them might even fall asleep with the remote control in their hand. The result is that the poor wife feels neglected.

Some businessmen sit amidst their paperwork even when they go back home, so it feels as if he has a second shift of work at home after completing his first shift at the office. Again, this happens while the poor wife is waiting desperately for his attention.

Modern means of communication have facilitated for the husband to stay in touch with his wife all the time. He can send her SMS  messages or call her to see how she is and this would not take more than a minute, but it would mean a lot to the wife.

He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would talk and walk with them even during travel

Aa’ishah narrated: “When the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, set out on a journey, he would cast lots amongst his wives. Once, this lot came out in my favor and that of Hafsah’s. We (Hafsah, and ‘Aa’ishah) both went along with him; the Prophet of Allah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to travel (on camel) and when it was night he would walk along with me and would talk with me.




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